*Stress*
Anyway, It did cross my mind when it comes down to the topic of tying the knot. Some people that I know of unfortunately are in a rush to get married or at least I think they are. In a desperation to get married is either two things that comes to mind:- "Moving towards something or away from something? For instance, some people get married so they can move away from home, not necessarily towards their spouse. A simpler way to ask this question might be: Are you moving towards being married or away from being single?" - Dr. Phil.
I think in this case for a certain somebody, can't wait to settle down due to past experience. Just a thought.
Take this example for instance:-
Guy (R) who has been dating Girl (S) for 2 years could not see a future, could not commit, not sure if he really loves her...well basically not sure about what he wants la. Therefore leads to a break up. R refuses to completely let go and still giving S lots of attention and wanting to do what most couples would usually do (but only as "friends") until S decides to end it for good because this entire relationship / friendship thing to her was not going anywhere (stagnant for a month) and R still could not make up his damn mind. A few days later he crawls back seeking for a second chance but what are the odds of him being able to change from someone who cannot commit to someone who can after lots of pressure and in a short period of time? If a person really loves you he/she wouldn't take months or days to think it through. For God sakes, 2 years in a relationship and the guy still cannot commit. Isn't this whole entire relationship a complete lie? Not to say he's very young also! Therefore, S rejects him and moves on with her life.
R, a guy who doesn't know what he wants got himself into a new relationship with Girl (T) and suddenly *Pooof* in less than 6 months (around there) he announces that he's engage. Surprising? Hmmmm...maybe R has finally found what he has been looking for which he just couldn't see in S.....
Or
.....could it be that since he was not able to get back with S, he's trying to proof to her that he could finally commit and settle down and make S regret for not giving him a chance? If so, I sincerely do feel sorry for T.
What I'm trying to say is that, you can't determine if somebody is good for you if you don't know your own needs! It's not selfish to have goals within a relationship.
This I believe can be a very debatable issue.
I have thought about it. I do admit that I am keen to tie the knot. It's just a matter of - When that right time would be? Is our relationship strong enough? Is my significant other ready to take the next step? Can he afford to support me? Is he the one I can spend the rest of my life with?...etc. There are no endings to these questions. Can't deny the fact that it's every girl's dream to someday be married to her prince charming and live happily ever after.
In all honesty, I'm glad to have found someone who can see the future with me. Who accepts and appreciates me for who I am. How will I know if he's the one? In the sense, I just do. It's hard to explain. Just knowing it comes from time spent contemplating our similarities, our differences and how well we just fit together.
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